It is early on in the summer vacation days and she is pushing my buttons. A lot. I took the girls to my mom's house to play in the creek. It was mostly amazing and perfect and cooling and idyllic. Except when A was driving my crazy. I was not making parenting look good. The following conversation actually happened (it's tedious, so maybe just skim it):
She said, "I want to change into my dry clothes." I said, "If you're going to play at the creek more, you should stay in your wet clothes." She said, "No. I want to change and play here in my dry clothes." I said, "No, you should stay in your wet clothes so that you don't get your dry clothes wet and then have no more dry clothes and you will be wet and sandy and uncomfortable for the drive home." She said, "No. I want my dry clothes." I said, "Annabel, you should stay in your wet clothes until you're all done at the creek." "No, I want to change." Exasperated sighs and eye rolling. (both of us)
My mom said, "You're kind of controlling." Annabel said, "Yeah Mom, you're kind of controlling." Bah! Oh for fuck's sake! Really?!
That is the dumbest conversation I have ever had. I warned you, you should have skimmed it. If you did, good direction following by you. Truthfully, I didn't care if she wore her wet clothes or her dry clothes. I was irritated that she wouldn't do what I had asked so I dug my heels in and she dug her heels in. There was a lot of heel digging.
If this has happened to you and now you know exactly how to handle it, please let me know because I have no fucking idea!
I'm Molly. I'm all in for parenting. I'm all in for good food. All in for big and small outdoor adventures. And really only partly in for homemaking. I want a Martha Stewart home and meal, but the truth is, we mamas just can't do it all. Not really. This shit is tricky!
This is a collection of musings and missives about parenting like you mean it. I mean really mean it. About how you can pull off a really mostly decent meal, keep your house kinda clean, do some of your laundry, and also even remember to usually feed your pets. But mostly about how being a mama is hard and we can totally rock it, but maybe that dream of perfection has got to give a little.